what about your (real) friends?

Yesterday was National Un-friend Day on Facebook. Whether or not you lost any “friends” is a topic all its own, as far as I know, I didn’t nor did I un-friend anyone. I totally understand the purpose of such a day though.

But today, one of my friends got me thinking about real friends. And I don’t think I need to describe what a real friend is or is supposed to be, but those who have them, know what I’m talking about. These are the friends you don’t need Facebook for because you see each other on a regular basis, or talk/text everyday, or would travel to see whether they live in the next town or the next state because they’re worth it.

And what my friend and I discussed was how rarely we might actually tell each other we love them, even if it’s platonic. I’ve been a firm believer that actions speak louder than words, and you can tell when you are loved or cared about by how your friends treat you or how you treat them. I’m blessed that I have so many that I can identify and without hesitation call them by name. I try to be a better friend to them than they are to me as a way to say how grateful I am they are in my life. This also explains why I get them gifts when they tell me not to.

As much as I love to write and talk, I will admit that those three little words sometimes are difficult to say. But it’s worth hearing and confirming that this person means something to you. Right?

I’m not a fan of regrets, and losing someone without getting the chance to say something you should’ve said (even if they already know) is the last regret I’d ever want. So with all of that sentiment, this is just to tell you what you always tend to hear every so often (especially when someone dies): tell those that you care about that you love them. Call them, text them, email them, Facebook, Twitter, whatever. Do it now because nobody knows what’ll happen tomorrow or even 5 minutes from now.